David Stoller

Share a moment

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We may have many moments in our lives, but, over time, too many of us are overwhelmed with failures that try to crush them. Holidays bring a time of much hope, whether for the joy of the holiday or the dream of the New Year.

We may have many moments in our lives, but, over time, too many of us are overwhelmed with failures that try to crush them. Holidays bring a time of much hope, whether for the joy of the holiday or the dream of the New Year.

A dog with his tail wagging, a boy with a big grin as he eats his ice cream cone, and a proud father watching his daughter’s first ballet. Moments of happiness that will not be taken away. We live in that moment of time that erases all evil, all sadness, and all stress. It’s a moment that medicine cannot duplicate and substance cannot offer. It’s just a moment, but one that is more wonderful than any other.

We may have many moments in our lives, but, over time, too many of us are overwhelmed with failures that try to crush them. Holidays bring a time of much hope, whether for the joy of the holiday or the dream of the New Year. But, holidays also bring memories of loss or failure, rather than those endeared. It is our duty to help each other when it’s needed the most.

Mementos closely resemble the moment, but, instead, capture it in a physical form, rather than a memory. It is these mementos that we place in our homes to remind us of times past. Unlike the moment, that warms us from inside, the memento is something to remind our physical being.

To overcome pain or evil, we must reach into ourselves to find what will change our life.  This is about smelling your loved ones favorite sweater, tasting their favorite food, seeing their smile in a photo, touching their favorite toy, or hearing their voice on an old voicemail. This is what brings us strength. This is what changes our life. This means more than any success or failure.

Thus, begins the important step of moving through life by using memory, along with mementos of sight, touch, smell, sound, and taste to guide us. Things like wealth, victory, and anticipation are all fleeting. They may become part of a memory or leave behind a memento, but so can poverty, loss, and desperation. It is our need to share these things with someone else that will create importance.

Winning a lottery is a miracle to many, but the real gift that cannot be replaced with money is the first feeling you have when you are told. Everything after that is just another day. Winning a championship and knowing, at that moment, that you and your team are the best, is the greatest feeling. All the anticipation in the world before opening a gift or meeting a loved one can’t top the moment of when you first found out this will happen.

We must come to understand that these moments make us whole. The events surrounding them become times of celebration or times of regret. But they will fade. Moments will not fade.

Every time something occurs, we go through the process of experiencing it. Just driving home each night, most of us don’t think about, or even remember, much of the actual drive. But, if someone cuts you off in traffic, you might remember that moment. The feelings you express, later, are worthless. The feeling felt at that moment will be remembered and intensified the next time.

When someone brings you a gift of flowers, you remember the moment, but few remember the flowers. Were they red roses or yellow daisies. If you kept it as a memento, you’d remember the entire event, more than just the moment. This is why we keep things. To hold on to our childhood, to hold on to our children, to hold on.

With another New Year always around the corner, we should all share more moments and look beyond happiness and sorrow. It is the NOW that we must share. The result is not as valuable as the memory. When we die, happiness and sorrow will no longer be of importance. When we live, happiness and sorrow will try to influence us. When we remember, we remember the moment.

 

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